It's Ok not to be Ok!

It's Ok not to be Ok!


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Becky Oludayo Peleowo

Aug 19, 2024

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I always waited for the right time to write especially after having my second child. My walls were often decorated with sticky notes to remember my to-do list and my year planner was rarely filled with anything despite its yearly replacement until I joined a writing group that changed my life.
Well, it wasn't a sudden transformation. Thank goodness I loved to read, so I read more than I wrote on the writing platform. Then, a writing retreat was organised and I found myself writing more than I used to. Before then, my last poem was dated April 28, 2017. I had thought maybe I had developed a permanent writer's block. Nothing was working.
First, I blamed my marriage, then childbearing, and then the life of a working, full-time mum but one piece of advice from the retreat kept ringing in my head - "You don't have to write it all. You can start with a line per day. Just write frequently. Be consistent! Just show up everyday! Write something daily!" But even all these seemed too much of a task.
Every day I'd get new ideas but because I don't pen them down I always tend to forget. So many possible write-ups became impossible. Many of my great articles were never born. Numerous mind-blowing poems became a mirage and I plunged into a state of melancholy reading so much from other people without having much to show for myself.
Often, writers experience a block - a period when inspirations fail to become words but I discovered my challenge was never a block but procrastination. So I decided to always carry my diary in a tote bag. My tote contained all my essentials even when I found myself in unplanned places. After all desperate times, they say, call for desperate measures. The reason for this is simple. Anytime a new idea pops in, I bring out my diary and pen it down.
Ideas, I have discovered, come from our daily routine; washing, cooking, in the marketplace, and even in the toilet. Funny, isn't it? Today while the Reverend Father dictated his sermon, an idea popped in and this article was born. I wrote just a few lines, read from others later in the day and completed this beautiful piece at midnight. Of course, I had my earphones pouring music from my inspirational playlist into my subconscious. This works for me when I need to ease stress.
This reminds me of an article that opines that we often want a perfect essay so we overuse big words and expressions which makes our writing too stiff and boring. The writer prided himself on his ability to write 480 000 words a month without running out of ideas. You don't have to make it complex. Keep it simple like tweets on X but also engaging like X's comments.

Sometimes it's ok to be overwhelmed. That's the storm before the calm. Don't wait for the right time to start. JUST DO IT NOW!

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